Free attachment style test
If love sometimes leaves you feeling insecure, you’ve often learned an insecure attachment style. Find out which attachment style shapes you, and how to become more secure, step by step.
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Two patterns many people know. Both are learned, and both can change.
Anxiously attached
Her boyfriend was online all afternoon but didn’t reply. Lea reads her message three times and then writes: “Everything okay?”More about the anxious style
Avoidantly attached
After a lovely weekend, his girlfriend asks whether they should move in together. Jonas says he still has work to do and barely gets in touch until Wednesday.More about the avoidant style
Attachment can be described on two axes: how afraid you are of being left, and how much you avoid closeness. Together they make four styles. Most people carry parts of several.
Low anxiety, low avoidance
Closeness feels good, distance is bearable. A fight is uncomfortable, but not a threat.
Read moreHigh anxiety, low avoidance
A lot of love, a lot of worry. A late reply or a different tone sets the thought carousel spinning.
Read moreLow anxiety, high avoidance
Independence matters. When things get very close, it quickly feels tight, and you need distance.
Read moreHigh anxiety, high avoidance
Wanting closeness and fearing it at the same time. Relationships often feel like a back-and-forth.
Read moreYour attachment style is a learned expectation: Will others be there when I need them? Am I worth someone staying for? What was learned can be relearned. Researchers call this earned security.
You recognize what happens inside you when your attachment system kicks in.
Your nervous system learns that closeness and distance aren’t dangerous.
With small steps in everyday life, you have new, secure experiences.
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An attachment style describes what you expect in close relationships: whether others will reliably be there, and whether you’re worth someone staying for. Research measures it on two axes, attachment anxiety and attachment avoidance. Together they give four styles: secure, anxious, avoidant and fearful-avoidant.
You respond to 16 statements on a scale from 1 to 5, plus a few details about yourself. It takes about 3 minutes and it’s free. Afterwards, you’ll see your main style and how your profile is made up of all four styles.
No. The course shares what attachment research has found, along with exercises for everyday life. If you’re really struggling, please talk to a professional.
No. The course works just as well for singles. Many exercises are about friendships, family and dating.
It’s designed for 12 weeks. You can go slower, take breaks or stop early. Many people notice the first changes after just a few weeks.
No. You pay once and keep your plan, even after the 12 weeks. You can revisit every lesson later.
Yes, anytime. The full price of your current plan counts toward the new one, so you only pay the difference.
On attachment theory as developed by Bowlby and Ainsworth, and on research into adult attachment. You’ll find the sources for each part of the content.
